I am a proud Target shopper. I go there, at least, every other day. With time running low, I thought I would check out the Thank You cards they had and boy was a disappointed. Not one of those cards would scream “me”. Don’t get me wrong, they had very nice cards with pink flowers and birds on branches but that’s not “me”. So I got a hold of my fav. designer (Underwood) and asked her to design a card that was “me” and boy did she ever. I said “go Gothic Vintage” and she went just there.

I’ve sent out the cards to people who sent something (though we didn’t register) and I haven’t heard anything about the style of the card but I’m sure they look at the card and say “that’s so her”.

Wow, it’s been quite awhile since I’ve written and not to say that the wedding is off or there’s nothing to write about, oh no, no, no! You’re planning a wedding. You have stuff to vent about. Let’s take for instance my “wedding party”. Ugh. Even the mere mention makes my ass twitch. I didn’t want anyone to be my “bridesmaid”. I was totally fine doing this all on my own because let’s face it, when you add more to the mix, you get more drama. Especially with women. Anyway, it seemed for ceremony purposes, I needed to have a Maid of Honor. Okay, no problem I knew exactly who I wanted and luck have it, she would be attending my wedding afar. However, there was the other friend. The one I knew longer who was ALSO going. The sucker in me said “okay, I’ll have two MOH (if you’re getting married and are on any forums, acronyms such as this one is second nature)”. BIG MISTAKE! These women, although they are my friends, really have no idea who I really am.

As soon as I made my announcement the girl flood gates RUSHED open: BACHELORETTE PARTY! BRIDAL SHOWER! You HAVE to register! We need to do this and this and that! and… Whoa, WAIT! This is EXACTLY what I was avoiding and here it’s coming at me full force. I finally took my sucker cloak off and put the big girl panties on and said “NO. No registering, no parties. NOTHING. This is not my style”. I got a moment of silence, ahhh such the sweet sound of silence, and then the reluctant “ohhhkay”.

Did I get my point across? Sure. For now. But the the wedding is still less than 2 months away. I’m sure some kind of coercion is bound to rear its ugly head. Really…is it too bad to change my mind about the whole MOH thing?

I am starting to see that the planning of anything is the bane of my absolute existence.

I thought having a “destination wedding” would be easy. You just show up in Italy, say “I do”, party with the locals and be called a Mrs.

No way. Planning is planning is planning.

After getting engaged at the end of October, I just floated through life like it was any other day. Sure, people would ask about the ring and when the wedding date was but I just replied with “next spring”; moving on. I did not possess anything that even slightly resembled a bride gene in my body. I had no desire to search for dresses or anything of that nature. My girlfriends had more excitement in their voices than I did. It’s not that I dread getting married. I’m excited to be marrying my beau it’s just that, though; being married to him. That’s the cool part. The planning and expectations of a “wedding” are what I dread. I just want to show up.

Now, here we are first of the year and the count down is REALLY on. The pressure is mounting. Everyone wants to know the deal. The problem is…I have no answers.

I have a guilty pleasure in the On Demand feature of my tv. It’s a guilty pleasure that my mum and I partake whenever we get together. We would kick off our shoes, make sure the cats (yes, all four of them) were sleeping and start watching some great television. Being that I’m such a fan of reality tv, I felt like I hit jackpot with catching WE TV’s BRIDEZILLAS. Oh man, this is slice of heaven with a side of corn starch. These women are outrageous! These grandiose ideas and visions of one of the happiest days of their life yet they make everyone around them think they’ve gone straight to hell. This one chick actually stated that no one is to have fun at her wedding. What the hell? Okay, let me get this straight, you’re going to spend some time, a buttload of money to make sure everyone is miserable? Hey, buddy (I’m looking at her fiance - who she treats like a toddler I might add) do you see your future???

The other day I made the Buddha man (my man) watch an episode with me. He watched the lady bitching at her fiance about having to buy her a bigger ring than the first if she couldn’t find her original ring and then he turned to me and said “would you be like that”? I stared at the tv and slightly shook my head no and muttered….”I would be MUCH worst”.

Sorry, guys, this is a political time! So, here’s more politics. Sarah Palin backs a Federal ban on gay marriage… this is the woman who opposes Roe v. Wade because she thinks the states oughta have the right to decide. She wants freedom for everyone… as long as they share her religious beliefs.

Okay… this is a very powerful story and I had to post a link to it. Prop 8 only HARMS, it doesn’t HELP. Prop 8 is directed at same-sex couples and yet it’s being pushed by people it doesn’t affect at all. Why is it so easy to attack other people’s rights for nebulous (read: imaginary) gains?

Read this story: http://www.positiveliberty.com/2008/10/no-on-california-prop-8.html

By the way…

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The Connecticut Supreme Court overturned a ban on same-sex marriages… why? Well, the answer is clear. It’s discrimination. There really aren’t two sides to this issue. I find it odd that the people who want their own rights to gun ownership, to the government staying out of their affairs, are the ones who want to limit other people’s rights. Let’s look at some facts.

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Just to be clear. Vote NO on proposition 8 in California. I’m all for evil on the silver screen, but this is real-life evil… The proponents of proposition 8 want to turn this around and pretend that by allowing same-sex marriage, the government is trying to infringe on THEIR rights. We all know the truth. Proposition 8 is about taking away rights based solely on sexual preference. No one is threatened by gay marriage. No one’s children are in danger. Oh, no, the evil “other” are after our children!

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